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People who are ‘incredibly good’ at catching liars ‘on the spot’ do these 6 things, say top psychologists

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People who are ‘incredibly good’ at catching liars ‘on the spot’ do these 6 things, say top psychologists

Humans have been trying to master lie detection for thousands of years — and failing miserably.

In fact, polygraphs aren’t reliable. With as little as 15 minutes of training, people have been able to consistently beat the test.

The U.S. National Academy of Sciences has even said that “the Federal government should not rely on polygraph examinations for screening prospective or current employees, or to identify spies or other national security risks because the test results are too inaccurate.”

So is there any way to detect lies based on real science? Actually, yes, and it involves understanding the psychology behind how liars think.

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How to tell when someone is lying—and get the truth out of them

In 2009, the High-Value Detainee Interrogation Group (HIG) was formed to develop new lie detection best practices, and by 2016, they had spent more than $15 million on over 100 research projects with top psychologists.

So what do people who are incredibly good at catching liars on the spot do? I’ve adapted the HIG findings for simplicity’s sake:

1. They are nice

You have to get the liar to like you. To open up. To talk a lot. And to make a mistake that reveals their deception.

A great trick is to think of yourself as a “friendly journalist.” Good journalists do their homework before they write an article. The more information you have going into a conversation, the better calibrated your internal lie detector will be.

And then there’s the “friendly” part. The HIG report found that “bad cop” isn’t effective, but “good cop” is. Everybody wants to be treated with respect. And when people are, they’re more likely to talk.

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2. They don’t rely on body language too much

Aldert Vrij, a psychology professor and leading expert on lie detection, says body language cues are rarely predictive.

Let me address a common myth directly: “Liars won’t look you in the eyes.” HIG’s review of the research found that “gaze aversion has never been shown to be a reliable indicator.”

And if that’s not enough to dispel the myth, there’s a 1978 study of the interpersonal behavior of incarcerated psychopaths. Guess what? They look people in the eyes more often than non-psychopaths.

3. They ask unanticipated questions

Ask an underage-looking person at a bar how old they are and you’ll hear a confident “I’m 21.” But what if you asked them, “What’s your date of birth?” That’s an exceedingly easy question for someone telling the truth, but a liar will likely have to pause to do some math. Gotcha.

The HIG report cites a study showing that standard airport security methods usually catch less than 5% of lying passengers. But when screeners used unanticipated questions, that number shot up to 66%.

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So start off with expected questions. This is non-intimidating and gives you info — but more importantly, it gets you a baseline. Then, throw them a question that’s easy for a truth teller to answer but that a liar would not be ready for.

Gauge the reaction. Did they calmly and quickly answer, or did their lag in answering suddenly increase?

Ask for verifiable details, too. “So if I give your boss a call, she can confirm that you were at that meeting yesterday?” Truth tellers will be able to quickly and easily answer that. Liars will be reluctant.

Another example: “What was Emily wearing at the meeting?” Again, easy for honest people, but a nightmare for liars. It’s verifiable — and they know that.

4. They use strategic evidence

You did your homework in advance, right? Good. Build rapport. Get them talking. Lead them to say something that contradicts the info you dug up.

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Ask for clarification so they commit to it. And then: “Sorry, I’m confused. You said you were with Gary yesterday. But Gary has been in France all week.” Ask yourself the magic questions: Do they look like they’re thinking hard? Does their hastily assembled reply contradict anything else, digging their grave deeper?

A 2006 study of Swedish police showed they typically detected lies 56.1% of the time. Those with “strategic use of evidence” training scored an 85.4%.

You want to incrementally reveal evidence. Repeated contradictions may get them to simply confess out of embarrassment. More likely it will make their lying increasingly obvious.

5. They don’t challenge them too early

If you immediately start questioning what they say or accuse them of lying, not only might they shut down, but they also might start altering their story.

Why would you want to help them tell a better lie. The goal is to make them want them to put it all out there and paint themselves into a corner.

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Herein lies the problem in dealing with slippery people: They get good feedback, you don’t. If I lie and don’t get caught, I see what works. If I lie and get caught, I see what doesn’t work.

On the other hand, the vast majority of the time you don’t get feedback on whether someone was honest with you. So liars are always improving. You aren’t. And that gives them an advantage. Don’t help them improve further.

Eric Barker is the bestselling author of “Barking Up the Wrong Tree” and “Plays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong.” Eric has given talks at MIT, Yale, Google and the U.S. Military Central Command. Follow him on Twitter @bakadesuyo.

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Gujarat Government Signs MOU with Entigrity, Commits Up to 150 Crore Investment

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Gujarat Government Signs MOU with Entigrity, Commits Up to 150 Crore Investment

Ahmedabad, India, June 27, 2022 –(PR.com)– Ahmedabad-based outsourcing and fintech company, Entigrity Pvt. Ltd entered into a partnership with the Government of Gujarat. They aim to invest 150 crores and create 3000 jobs in the IT & Outsourcing Industry of the state.

Entigrity Pvt. Ltd. is a global leader in outsourcing for accounting firms across North America and the United Kingdom. On 20th June, 2022, the company signed an Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) with the Government of Gujarat under its IT/ITES policy 2022-27.

A part of the Government’s IT/ITeS policy 2022-27, under this MOU, the company intends to generate an upwards of 3000 employment opportunities across Gujarat and invest upto 150 crores in the coming 3 to 5 years. The MoU was signed in the presence of the Hon’ble Chief Minister of Gujarat, Shri. Bhupendrabhai Patel. Shri. Vijay Nehra, Secretary of the State Department of Science and Technology along with Entigrity CEO, Mr. Shalin Parikh and COO, Mr. Valay Parikh attended the signing ceremony.

Through this MoU, Entigrity joins the State Government in bolstering its efforts to assist the Information Technology sector, empower youth through ICT skills, and position Gujarat as a preferred location for global knowledge workforce and industry.

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Mr. Shalin Parikh, Founder and CEO of Entigrity said, “Government of Gujarat’s IT and ITES policy initiative, under the leadership of Shri Bhupendrabhai Patel, will really boost investment & enable the whole ecosystem to grow. Gujarat will immensely benefit from these policies and we are happy that we have been selected among the Top 3 companies to sign an MOU to strengthen the government’s efforts. These policies will really help companies like ours in building infrastructure, hiring right talent and being more globally competitive. Our aim is to go to tier 2 cities of Gujarat and set up our offices there and generate progressive employment opportunities for the youth of these cities.”

Started in December 2015 with 4 team members in a short span of 6 years Entigrity has grown to more than 1250 employees, with offices in 6 different cities of India. Entigrity also has offices in Houston, TX and Toronto, ON. With its main office in Ahmedabad, in the coming years, the company plans to expand its presence to cities such as Rajkot, Baroda and Surat. Entigrity hired almost 700 people during the pandemic in 2020 and 2021, and grew by more than 100% in the last two years.

Shalin further says, “We have completely bootstrapped our business from scratch to scale and have never raised any funding from Investors or VC’s, and we would love to remain that way. We have had several investment offers over the years, however, our focus has been to grow profitably while prioritizing employee welfare and client satisfaction. Our core strength is our team.”

Entigrity focuses on 3Es for every Entigritian i.e. Enhance, Empower and Elevate.

#enhance – continuous upskilling amongst its employees by providing quality training and development all the while upholding its core values

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#empower – providing the right platform and environment for growth and development of each team member.

#elevate – all the Sr. Management positions at Entigrity are being held by employees who have grown and elevated in their career at Entigrity. Entigrity believe in elevating their homegrown talent to all senior and leadership position as they have given the sweat and blood in building the foundation.

In their short journey of less than 75 months, they have hired 800+ CA dropouts and have thereby provided them with progressive career opportunities. They intend to continue our endeavor and provide opportunities to those dropouts and individuals who have unfortunately failed in their CA exams. Providing such opportunities would result in gainful employment creation, because these candidates, who failed in their CA careers often don’t get the kind of opportunity that they truly deserve. In most cases, if you are not able to clear the CA exams, the opportunities and growth in the job market for such a student would be significantly lower compared to one who has become a chartered accountant. The knowledge and skills gained by them during their articleship and while preparing for their exams is what is far more valuable in the eyes of the company rather than just a title or degree. As far as statistics are concerned, there are more than 5 Lakh semi- qualified/dropped out CA aspirants in the market struggling for a gainful opportunity.

Not only that, but Entigrity also provides sponsorship to all its staff members if they wish to pursue CPA (Certified Public Accounting) or EA (Enrolled Agent) program while working with the company.

Elaborating on the same, Shalin says, “We want to reach out to this pool of talent who have dropped out of CA exams because of various reasons, financial, social or otherwise, so that we can break the stigma around these dropped out CA aspirants and provide more advantageous and progressive working opportunities. I believe they deserve better job opportunities and financial growth considering the amount of hard work they have done in preparing for their CA exams and the knowledge they have gained by working in a CA firm for 2 to 3 years. We at Entigrity, respect hardwork and knowledge over any title or degree.”

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Speaking about their plans to scale the business, Mr. Valay Parikh, COO and Co-founder said, “We plan to hire more than 3000 professionals in the state of Gujarat in the next 3 to 5 years across multiple cities. Apart from expanding our operation in Ahmedabad, we will be opening up our offices in Gandhinagar, Rajkot, Surat, Vadodara, thereby generating direct employment of 3000+ professionals in the state of Gujarat. With this increased hiring, we would continuously increase our investment in expanding our Infrastructure, building state of the art research and development centers, continuously upgrade our learning and development infrastructure, expand our investment in technology and cybersecurity capacities, especially in the area of Automation, Robotics and Edtech, to cater our clients. We plan to invest between 100 to 150 crores in the state of Gujarat in the next 3 to 5 years. Our focus would be to provide economic and job opportunities to the youth of Tier 2 cities of gujarat so they don’t have to migrate to pune, bangalore or hyderabad and they get the same opportunities in their hometown.”

The company has also taken great efforts to give back to the community and support the less fortunate. They started with an Initiative in March 2022 called the “1 Child Education Support for 1 Employee” wherein they support the complete education of 1 underprivileged child for every employee they recruit. With a target to support more than a thousand children before the end of 2022 and a double of that by the end of 2023, this MoU will go a long way in aiding Entigrity’s goal.

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Pennsylvania’s Governor Race Focuses on Abortion Following Supreme Court Ruling

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Abortion is now front and center in the gubernatorial race in Pennsylvania, after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade leaving states to individually choose abortion access.

The race is very tight between Pennsylvania State Sen. Doug Mastriano, a Republican, and Pennsylvania Attorney General Josh Shapiro., a Democrat. The latest election poll by the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP), released two days before the Supreme Court ruling on abortion, showed Shapiro holding a slim lead, 49 percent to 46 percent, over Mastriano.

On June 26, Shapiro took to Twitter to state what he would do if elected governor.

“As Governor, I won’t hesitate to veto any bill that undermines a woman’s right to choose in Pennsylvania,” Shapiro said. “Doug Mastriano wouldn’t hesitate to sign that bill into law—and outright ban abortion in the Commonwealth.”

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“That’s the difference,” Shapiro said.

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Pennsylvania Attorney General Josh Shapiro in Philadelphia, Pa., on March 2, 2017. (Jessica Kourkounis/Getty Images)

Hours after his initial Twitter post, Shapiro added that he would continue the pro-abortion stance of the current Gov. Tom Wolf, a Democrat.

“In Pennsylvania, women still have the choice—and that’s because of the veto pen of our Democratic Governor,” Shapiro added. “We can’t lose that veto pen.”

One day earlier, Shapiro held a rally at Philadelphia’s National Constitution Center, during which he told his supporters to vote in November and pledged his support for abortion.

The Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, a seminal 1973 ruling that largely legalized abortion nationwide, on June 24 following a 6–3 vote. Justice Samuel Alito, who wrote the court’s majority opinion, stated that “Roe was egregiously wrong from the start” and, “It is time to heed the Constitution and return the issue of abortion to the people’s elected representatives.”

Abortion has become illegal for some states with so-called trigger laws, but Pennsylvania is not one of them. Currently, Pennsylvania allows abortions up to the 24th week of pregnancy.

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Wolf, who has been governor since 2015, has vetoed three different bills that would have restricted abortion access in the state, in the years 2017, 2019, and 2020. The bills were passed by the Republican-controlled General Assembly.

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Republican gubernatorial candidate Doug Mastriano gives a victory speech at his election-night party at The Orchards in Chambersburg, Pennsylvania on on May 17, 2022. (Michael M. Santiago/Getty Images)

Following the Supreme Court’s decision on abortion, Mastriano released a statement calling the ruling “a triumph for innocent life.”

“Roe v. Wade is rightly relegated to the ash heap of history. As the abortion debate returns to the states, Pennsylvania must be prepared to lead the nation in being a voice for the voiceless,” Mastriano said.

“Pennsylvanians will not be distracted by the hysterics of the left as they exploit this ruling to try to fulfill their far-left agenda,” Mastriano continued. “As they struggle with all-time record-high inflation, the people care deeply about the price of gas and groceries, as well as out-of-control crime and good-paying jobs—which is exactly why I will prioritize these issues as their governor.”

Voters in Pennsylvania consider abortion an important issue. According to a recent USA Today/Suffolk University poll (pdf), abortion was the third (16 percent) most important issue for female voters in the governor’s race, behind the economy (24 percent) and gun control (18 percent). The poll was conducted from June 10 to 13.

Abortion became the most important issue (24 percent) for female voters in Pennsylvania’s Senate race, according to the poll, ahead of the economy and gun control, each with 16 percent.

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Wellness celebrity figure Dr. Mehmet Oz, a Republican, is facing Lt. Gov. John Fetterman, a Democrat, in Pennsylvania’s Senate election, to fill a seat vacated by retiring two-term Sen. Pat Toomey (R-Pa.).

John Kincaid, director of the Meyner Center for the Study of State and Local Government at Lafayette College, told WFMZ-TV that the Supreme Court’s ruling on abortion will have a marginal effect on voters in Pennsylvania.

“The decision may bring out more Democrats in the election than there otherwise would be, so that will help the Democrats, but I believe it will have a more marginal, rather than major, impact,” Kincaid said.

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‘God’s Great Outdoors’: Navy Vet Takes Air Force Vet Mom on Epic Tour of 20 States

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The 96-year-old U.S. Air Force veteran says she is ‘humbled by the beauty and greatness” of the country

A retired Navy nurse took her 95-year-old mother, a U.S. Air Force veteran diagnosed with dementia, on a 26,000-mile adventure across the United States. Together, they passed through 70 cities in 20 states, collecting stories and experiences like none they’d had before.

Teresa Lee McFarland of Lone Pine, California, is 63 years old. She retired as a Navy Nurse Corps Commander and family nurse practitioner in 2020 to care for her mother, Norma Lee Lamascus, full time. Norma, who celebrated her 96th birthday on the tour, was once a registered nurse and served two years with the U.S. Air Force between 1952 and 1954.

The mom-daughter pair have since returned home from their over 10-month-long trailer tour of a lifetime and are planning to travel again, starting in July. The best part, after all this traveling, is that Norma’s dementia scores have improved.

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“[I feel] humbled by the beauty and greatness of our big country,” she told The Epoch Times. “I learned that life is wonderful, and that I can still enjoy God’s great outdoors at my age! Life is for living. Every moment can be a wonderful adventure if you look for it.”

Teresa added: “I learned that, with God’s help, there isn’t really anything we can’t do. I also learned that most strangers are kind and generous.”

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Teresa (L) and Norma at London Bridge, Lake Havasu City, Arizona. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Norma standing next to the 400-foot-tall American Flag in Sheboygan, Wisconsin. Visiting this place was Norma’s “favorite thing” on the tour, according to Teresa. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

‘I Want to See the People I love Before I Die’

Norma moved in with Teresa in March 2018 when she could no longer afford to keep up her home in Oceanside, California, and needed help with chores. Then the COVID-19 pandemic hit, and life grew even harder.

“The forced isolation and travel restrictions shut down her social life,” Teresa said. “She couldn’t go to visit her dearest friends living near her former home, and five of her new friends died. Needless to say, she became despondent with grief.”

Norma told her daughter, “I want to see the people I love before I die!”

Teresa was determined to make it happen.

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In October 2020, she bought a 2011 2WD Toyota Tacoma and 17-foot 1985 Aljo Aly pull trailer to fix up. Teresa oversaw the modifications herself, raising the seats 3 inches for accessibility, adding hand grips, a new heater and window, and updating the decor. By March 2021, the revamped trailer, nicknamed “Blessing,” boasted a fully functional kitchen, bathroom with shower, sleeping spaces, and a brand-new look.

“I did everything but the heater myself,” she said.

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Teresa and Norma with their tour trailer, nicknamed “Blessing.” (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Norma outside the trailer. Her daughter affectionately addresses her as “a super hero” for her resilient spirit and love for life. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

With Norma fully on board, Teresa plotted a route using paper maps and an old U.S. Road Atlas to include visits to old friends, family, and even DNA relatives whom Norma had discovered through DNA testing but never met. The pair chronicled their epic trip on a dedicated Facebook page, Norma’s 95: Big Adventure.

With a preference for quiet rural spots and natural beauty, Teresa made reservations at campgrounds ahead of each pit stop. She found military base campgrounds especially welcoming, and says life on the road was both “fun and challenging.”

“I did all of the trip planning, packing, shopping, cooking, laundry, driving and towing, set-up and take down for the trailer,” Teresa said. “My goal was to drive less than five hours each day, stop before dark, and stay at least two days at each stop. At this pace, we could both enjoy the journey all along the way.

“We remained flexible and didn’t plan ahead too much so we could accommodate unexpected mishaps, like a flat tire, and take advantage of any surprise opportunities that showed up: the public art murals, sculptures, mosaic-tiled automobiles, riverside walking paths, swimming pools, community concerts, spontaneous dancing in the grass, and the amazing beauty of God’s creation.”

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Cadet Nurse Norma Lee, in Denver, Colorado, in 1943. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Student Nurse Norma Lee (R), at the Visiting Nurse Association, in Denver, Colorado. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

Making Memories

In over 10 months, with four oil changes and four new tires along the way, Teresa and her mother visited 20 U.S. states: California, Nevada, Idaho, Utah, Colorado, Nebraska, Iowa, Minnesota, Wisconsin, Illinois, Missouri, Indiana, Kentucky, Tennessee, North Carolina, Arkansas, Oklahoma, Texas, New Mexico, and Arizona.

In their home state of California, Norma visited her childhood best friend since Kindergarten at Scotts Valley. In St. Louis, Missouri, the pair visited Teresa’s sister; Norma met her latest great-grandson for the first time in Crystal City.

Colorado heralded a nostalgic meeting.

“Norma enjoyed seeing three of her nursing classmates from 1946,” said Teresa, “and we went to Presbyterian Saint Luke’s Hospital to see if there was any interest in Norma, a 1946 graduate of the Denver Saint Luke’s Hospital School of Nursing; they gave Norma a wonderful book filled with photos and detailed history of the hospital.”

In her hometown of Lewellen, Nebraska, Norma reunited with family and old friends and met her first DNA relative, a 94-year-old third cousin, for the very first time.

As the tour progressed, they kept adding new memories to their book of life.

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Norma (C) with 100-year-old Jim Patterson, her first boyfriend, and his wife in Oshkosh, Nebraska. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Norma (L) with an old friend, “Muggy” Delores, whom she used to babysit in Lewellen, Nebraska. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Norma (R) with her childhood friend Betty in nursing home. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

The pair also made ample time for day trips, including Noah’s Ark in Williamstown, the Minneapolis Zoo, where Norma fulfilled a lifelong wish to ride a camel, and Sheboygan’s 400-foot-tall American flag.

They spent the holidays in Lake Havasu City, enjoying London Bridge, walking in the cactus garden, and taking the ferry to Christmas dinner at the casino. “The Arizona sunsets still warm our memories,” said Teresa.

Norma celebrated her 96th birthday in Meridian, Idaho. And in Cascade, 15 family members spanning in age from 7 to 96 hosted “Camp Grandma” for the nonagenarian birthday girl.

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Norma (R) with Agnes, her 1946 nursing school classmate. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)
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Norma (C) with her nephew Barney and niece Suzie at the Minneapolis Zoo. Suzie was later diagnosed with cancer and died 2 months after the meeting. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

The Conscientious Daughter

Teresa first noticed warning signs of dementia in her mother in November 2019.

Norma had trouble problem-solving, did not use logical reasoning, and was forgetting more frequently; she had difficulty following directions of more than two steps, repeated questions already answered, and said the same things over and over again. Less active physically, her social life declined.

Unable to drop to a part-time schedule, Teresa retired to become her mother’s full-time caretaker. Ironically, she believes Norma herself might have invented the “assisted living” model we know today during her career as a nurse. Teresa said: “In 1968, [my mother] bought a too-large house to provide a home like ‘board and care’ to elderly men and women who needed help with their medication, laundry, and meals. Otherwise they were independent and on their own. The health and fire inspectors weren’t sure what to do with her, as this type of care was otherwise unheard of.”

Well-versed in Norma’s needs by the time the trailer was ready, Teresa made sure their trip was accessible. Norma uses a four-wheeled rolling walker for stability, quickly runs out of steam due to heart failure and COPD, and cannot stand without support for more than a few seconds.

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Norma. (Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

It was Norma’s job to inspect every new campground for adequate bathroom facilities, said Teresa, while she set up the trailer for each stay. The thoughtful daughter carried three portable suction grab bars, a shower stool, and a hand-held shower spray with wrenches, just in case they needed them.

But during their travels, Teresa noticed that even Norma’s transport chair was too flimsy to handle the uneven trails and river walks they hoped to explore. She found a $4,000 all-terrain chair from France online, but was reluctant to commit without trying it first. Then she came across an advocacy group that provides running pushchairs for disabled athletes.

“This contact led me to Mike DiDonato of Southbridge Tool and Manufacturing in Massachusetts,” said Teresa. “He offered to let us borrow a blade running chair with trail wheels for as long as we needed it, all we had to pay was the shipping costs.”

Teresa believes that when one is faced with problems or challenges, it’s important to be curious and to ask others for ideas and whatever help they can offer, and “be persistent to find a solution.”

Help was never far away. When Norma contracted a painful ear infection in Minnesota, they visited a local urgent-care facility with a prescription vending machine in the waiting room, getting the antibiotics they needed in the middle of the night. The Traveling Veterans Program looked after Norma throughout her recovery.

Even the trailer suffered a few health issues as the trip went on, but Teresa saved the day. She recalled: “Once the weather started to get colder in Tennessee, some of the trailer’s old pipes became frozen. I solved this issue by placing small portable heaters inside the bathroom cabinet.”

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(Courtesy of Teresa McFarland)

After 10 months on the road with now-96-year-old Norma, Teresa feels proud of her mother for her enduring adventurous spirit, proud of herself for making the trip happen, despite obstacles, and grateful that they ignored the naysayers.

“I learned that enjoying the present is an incredible gift to myself and those around me,” Teresa reflected.

Concerned about her mother’s memory and mental health, Teresa recently got Norma’s thorough neuro-cognitive assessment done. The results were surprising. “Her score had actually improved from January 2021,” Teresa said. “I am convinced that the mental stimulation, social experiences, and travel to new places actually improved her mental function!”

Teresa, who is a member of the VA Caregiver Support Network, implores other caregivers to find support from people who understand and empathize. The “frank, funny, steady, reliable” friends in her virtual support group have made caregiving possible for Teresa, and thriving possible for Norma at 96.

“I encourage everyone to experience an adventure every day. This is important for young and old. It makes all of life much richer, fuller, and more fun,” Teresa said.

“I’m forever grateful we took this trip.”

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Arshdeep Sarao contributed to this report.

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